This is to anyone who is thinking about travelling to Ukraine is search of their soul mate. First of all, DO IT. You will hear from friends that you are crazy to say the least. They will say that you can find a good woman at home. There are good women at home, but they are married. There is a reason why the ones that are single are still single. I have been single for 8 years and have dated plenty of women, some good, some bad, but none that I would consider spending the rest of my life with. One could say that I set the bar too high. I refuse to just settle for just anything, and when it comes to something as important as ones soul mate, best friend, and lover, why would anyone not want to find the best. Here is my story about how I found the best woman in the world. It has been a long one for me, but a great one.
I went out to dinner with one of my customers and his wife. He had told me before that she was Ukrainian, that did not mean much to me. To say the least I became enamored with her by the time we received our main course. Her accent, poise, demeanor, and of course her looks had me intrigued. By the time we had finished our last drinks, she had learned that I was single and she had given me the e-mail of her good friend who was interested in an American man. I corresponded with that lady for a little while, but we did not hit it off. I thought that there might be something to this, so I did what any American male does. I hit the Internet. After a lot of reading, I gave some money to one of the big agencies. That started my ups and downs. I had decided on just one city, Kiev. I corresponded with a lot of ladies for a few months and then took the plunge and bought my plane ticket. Just a side note, Ukraine is a safe country. I have felt completely safe on the many trips that I have been there. I have spent many months in countries all over the world when I was a Marine and it is one of the safer places that I have been to. Just be smart and you will have no problems.
My first trip of 3 weeks in Kiev was unreal. Within an hour after being at my apartment I was at the main square having a beer and talking to girls that I just met at the square. One of those girls, a school teacher, is still a good friend of mine today. She taught me a lot about Ukrainian customs and the differences in our culture. Yes, there are differences. Yes, you will make mistakes and offend a girl, but it is a learning process. I went out with a lot of women during those 3 weeks. Some that I had previously talked to on the Internet and some that I met there. I went out with some girls just once, no chemistry, and others 4 or 5 times. All of my trips have been a learning process. Most girls live on modest means and some will try to take advantage of you, most will not. It is your money, do with it what you want. To this day, every time I meet the school teacher, I take her shopping for clothes and other necessities. She is a friend and I have the means. The day after I returned I was already checking on flights to go back. There were a few girls that I wanted to see. On my second trip, I narrowed my search down to just one. I had already decided she was the one, but I wanted to make sure. Over the next year and a half, I visited Kiev many times, and one trip to the Dominican Republic in the winter. I am a southern boy and I decided 85 degrees was better in January than 15 degrees. Besides, who would not want to go to a Caribbean resort with a Slavic goddess. Now, you are asking, why so many trips. Well, we started the paperwork to bring her to the US, but there were some issues with her family. The US is not the only place with trailer park drama. I think it was my sixth trip there, this girls mother told me she "did not like me." She said her daughter loved me and I took great care of her, but I wanted to take her away. Yes, I did. Was I selfish? Yes. Moving to Ukraine was not an option. I have too good of a life here and could not see giving up a dream job and everything that I had built here, plus I have 3 sons that still need guidance of their father so that they can grow up to be good men. Yes, I would have searched for a job there if I did not have all of those things here. I wanted to marry that girl. On my next trip to Ukraine we sat down and had a heart to heart. She said that she could not leave her mother and did not know if she would ever be able to. By the way guys, their mother is the most important thing in their life. You need to win over mother. I started this journey to end up with my soul mate one day. I did not see any light at the end of the tunnel. I would have continued to date this girl and visit her every few months if I was certain that we would one day be together. When I kissed her good-bye at the airport, I knew that it was over.
OK, I am back stateside and still single. Good memories, yes. Regrets, none. I had dated a great girl for a long time and had become good friends with another (the teacher). So back to the Internet I went. Why did I not give up or just settle for a girl here. That answer is easy. Once you have spent some time with a Ukrainian girl you will know. There was no way that I would do what I considered taking a step back. I decided I wanted to see a different city, so I chose Kharkov. I was doing some research and stumbled upon the Mordinson Agency. I was about to start correspondence through the agency that I had used before, but after checking out their website and reading their business philosophy, I decided on them. Yes, it was a little pricey, but not bad. I had always done everything on my first trips solo and it had worked for me so far. Yes, I am tight with my money, but when I figured up all of the trips that I had already made, plus the Dominican, and many gifts. All for what, I was still single. Maybe I was thinking that I would never get married and I thought that using their services would help me. Who knows, but I made the decision to go through their agency. Looking back it was a great decision.
So here I am again, going back to Ukraine, but without a girlfriend. I was determined in my search. I arrived in Kharkov after spending a night in Kiev to see the the teacher and my now ex-girlfriend. Upon arrival, I settled into my apartment, which blows away all Ukrainian apartments that I had stayed in previously and a lot of American apartments. A few hours later, I was off with Mishael going on my first dates. Over my trips, I have been out with a lot of girls, but the quality of the Mordinson girls was by far the best on average. After a few days of multiple dates, I was down to two girls that I was very interested in. So after a few more days, I wanted to spend all of my time with just one girl. That was a hard decision, because they were both great girls. Well, I made my decision to see just Julia and also to come back to Kharkov in a few months over Christmas and New Years. Mishael and Darya were great about arranging anything and everything. Mishael would call me every morning and give me the schedule for the day. He would call the girls and get locations and times set. He would have been a good ringmaster in a three ring circus. At times I felt guilty because of all of their work. Julia did not speak a word of English. This was not a problem. Mishael and Darya are great interpreters. They are unassuming and low key. I felt extremely comfortable having them there and so do the girls. There were plenty of times that I was alone with Julia. If there was a situation that communication was breaking down between me and Julia, we could call Mishael at any time and he would straighten out our communication gap. Trust me, he received a few calls and he handled everything expertly. I left Kharkov way to soon, but with the confidence that I had met the perfect girl. Before I left we decided Julia would start her English lessons with Mishael. She really liked them and told me that she likes Mishael as her instructor.
Christmas Day, and I am back at the airport after spending time with my sons. Did I mention that I do not like cold weather, well nothing was stopping me from seeing Julia. Another hint, take under armor, it made my trip bearable. Kharkov was rather chilly for me for the next 11 days, but it did not matter. I was back with Julia. Upon arrival at Boryspil I learned my luggage was still in Paris. Oh well. Immigration took forever, then the lost luggage paperwork, and finally customs. The whole time I am thinking the driver would give up waiting on me and leave. I went through the doors and there he was with the Mordinson sign. What a relief. It is not a bad drive. I had tried to book internal flights to Kharkov, but they were sold out. When I arrived in Kharkov, there was Mishael waiting on me. I was to see Julia in an hour and I had no clean clothes or toiletries. I gave Mishael money and he ran to the store and bought everything I needed while I took a shower. I considered this above and beyond the call of duty. I only had a little bit of time to get ready and he could have said tough luck. Instead he was genuinely concerned in doing everything he could to help me. After getting cleaned up, it was time to see the love of my life. The time went way too fast, but as always I had a great time. Even with the cold weather my apartment stayed warm and I was prepared for it when I was out in the elements. Quite a few times I used Mishael and Darya to translate. Then there were the phone calls to Mishael to smooth out some of our communications. As always, he was available and prevented some confusion. Mishael even answered his phone on New Years eve. Now that is dedication. By the way, New Years was a very good time. I think that I might be back for another one. It was a cross of Halloween, Mardi Gras, and New Years all in one.
Well, my next trip back to Kharkov is in April. This time to get married. Me and Julia decided to get married and have the ceremony there. Now again, Mishael is going above and beyond the call of duty. He has gone to the local civil registrar for me, talked to them, and verified all of the documents and everything that we need to be married in Ukraine. He will be translating and getting everything notarized for me. Everything about their business is top notch and dependable. All of our letters have been translated perfectly, the personal meetings handled very professionally, and any task handled punctually. Right before my latest trip, I had not heard from Julia in a few days, and there were some questions that I was waiting on an answer for. Mishael shot me an e-mail telling me she had to go to her hometown for a family emergency. Now this is how good the agency is. They would take my letters and mail them to Julia and then translate the ones she mailed back. The level of concern and effort by them is unmatched. They are genuinely concerned about their customers and their girls. Some of the girls that I met on my first trip to Kharkov even told me how much they liked the Mordinsons. Trust me, you will never hear that from a girl about any other agency. I am lucky and happy to have used their services, and will continue to use them. Julia is continuing her English lessons and there are documents to get sent to them and translated before I return. I look forward to my next trip, of course, but they have made my trips to Kharkov even better than what I could have imagined. I wish that I had used their services earlier. I have already recommended them to someone who made a trip to Kiev and did not have the best experience. One can not go wrong with the Mordinson agency. Kirk
About A Mordinson Introduction
www.mordinson.com is Ukrainian based personal Matchmaker which has been one of the pioneers of the field, found in 1999 A Mordinson Introduction has matched over 200 couples since then.